So, patience is a virtue, and it has never been a virtue that I have not had much practice in. Though a conversation that I have with one of my newer friends, Brad**, in Mid-May, I said something that really stood out in my mind. We had been talking about the fact that we both were very impatient people - specially in the ways of relationships and being single. The wittiest and most true thing I have ever told him came out, "I guess the way that I view impatience is that you can't really be impatient without already knowing exactly what you want." I didn't at that time realize how smart what I said was. People in this world are all about fast paced and perfect. In Brad and my case we had been discussing relationships, but it was a theory that I realized I can apply to all aspects of my life.
I am frustrated with school and how long it has been taking me and how long I have left. I am impatient with school because I know what my eventual goal is. I want to teach at a college, and I am ready to just be there. So, I am trying to rush things and get it all done as quickly as possible to reach that goal. Instead of enjoying my life I realize exactly what I want, and I reach for it.
Even in relationships, the original topic from the comment, I am the same way. I'm not the only one though. Brad is kinda my proof of that. He want his "Pam" (enter The Office jokes here) and his "Jenny" (Forest Gump). He was impatient because he saw exactly what he wanted and knew exactly who she was. In the end, his impatience has paid off. They are happy, and nothing in my life has been able to make me happier then seeing two friends happy. I see what I want in the guys I date, and I despise knowing exactly what I want in the relationships... my impatience is just going to have to continue to grow. It'll come eventually, right?
I'm not saying impatience is a good thing, but in theory it seems to prove that you know what you want. Looking at life, impatience is this huge indicator that you know the direction you want your mind and life to go in. Sure, we have to wait it out to reach those goals, but who would we be without a little bit of a wait? We wouldn't know how great it was to have what we'd wanted if we didn't wait. So, the next time you realize that you are impatient with anything going on in your life. Take a minute to wonder why you are so impatient.
Maybe my theory is just a spoof. That is why it is a theory. Maybe it is just how I see things, but I would make a bet that it is because there is a specific goal or outcome that you expect or want from the situation. In the end, that is good cause from impatience we also usually have to have a deal of patience to reach those goals and relationships. Why let life go any way but exactly how you want it to? Your life is yours, and all those things that you are impatient for... reach out and go after them.
*Note: This was the date that this blog was written.
**Note: Name has been changed.
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